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There will be a lot of people at this event with a range of gender identities. We ask everyone to please be respectful of each other.  We have known you all through many years of life, so let's start with how we would like you to refer to us:

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 Kolmel Love | They/Them 

Childhood nickname exception Ace (Dave + kids only)

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 Alex Albers | They/Them/She/Her 

Some folks all me "Albers" some call me "Alex" , any are fine! And Iʻm fine with either they/them or she/her.

Childhood nickname exception for Zanna (Emily & Ann), Ayex (family)

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What if I don’t know what pronouns someone uses?

 

 You can do one of four things:  

1.   Ask!: It’s perfectly acceptable to ask someone what pronouns they use. See the next section for tips and methods! 

2.   Use “They”: Use singular “they/them/theirs” for this person until you have the opportunity to ask about their pronouns. "Wow, Kolmelʻs outfit is cool.  They look amazing!"

3.   Use their name until you learn their pronouns.

4.  Check the event directory (coming soon)

 

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How do I ask what pronouns to use? 

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Sometimes people get nervous about asking for pronouns, because they aren’t sure how to ask.  The easiest way to lean into asking someone about their pronouns is to share your own:

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“Hello, my name is Charlie and I go by ‘he, him, his’ pronouns. What pronouns do you use?” 

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By opening the conversation with your pronouns, you are increasing the normalcy of sharing of pronouns in public spaces and interactions.  You’re creating an opening to ask for their pronouns. 

Or  “How would you like me to refer to you?" / "What pronoun do you use? / "Can I ask your pronoun?"

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More info on Pronoun etiquette here

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Covid

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What COVID precautions are you taking? 

 

We are requiring everyone to   TAKE A COVID TEST   before the first event they attend. These results will be collected.  If you have not taken a test prior to the event, you will have to take one at the door.  

 

We would love to encourage all traveling guests to please mask on airplanes/trains.  Anything folks can to minimize risk would be greatly appreciated.  Although we are not requiring masks during the events themselves, we ask our guests to use their own discretion.

 

If you are not feeling well, we will miss you very much, but we ask you to please skip this event.

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Some attending guests are immunocompromised. All of our favorite people are here, please do your part in making these events as safe as possible.

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If you test positive during or after the event, please let us know.

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Event details

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How do i RSVP for the events? / What happens if my RSVP changes?

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You must RSVP to each event you plan to attend.  We emailed an RSVP link that will includes an opportunity  to share dietary restrictions and accessibility requests,  If you are bringing any kids, please be sure to indicated which events they will be attending.  If your RSVP status changes, please let us know ASAP!

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Do I have a +1?

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Unless otherwise indicated in previous correspondence with us, we are not offering +1s.  I know this might be disappointing, but we are trying our hardest to keep this on the smaller side and focusing on creating an event for our very closest loved ones.

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Are my kids invited?

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Yes!  But for the younger ones, please be prepared to look after them.  We will connect parents with each other via email prior to the event.

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Are the venues kid friendly?

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Our venues are all ages, and your kids are welcome to attend.  We wont have any "kid zones" available, so please be prepared to watch younger kids. Our main event space, The Black Squirrel Club, is an industrial space and may have sharp corners, uneven floors, and other strange things. 

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How do I know who is here?

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We are working to put together a guest directory for those interested in sharing their details with each other. Coming soon.

 

 

Will the ceremony and reception take place indoors or outdoors?

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All of our venues have indoor/outdoor space available.  The main portion/s of the events will take place indoors..

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What's the dress code?

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Please note the dress codes on each of the event listings on the Schedule linked above.  Overall, it's festive and fun.  Wear what feels good to you.

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Is there a way to attend the ceremony virtually?

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At this point we don't have a virtual option available.  We will be recording portions of the events, and we'll work on have these to share with those who cannot attend.

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What's the weather like?

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September in Philly is typically very warm/humid.  Daytime high temperatures historically have been between  88-69 F.   Averaging around a high of 82 F. There is sometimes rain, so please plan accordingly.

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Is there an emergency contact?

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We are still figuring this out.  Check back here or stay tuned for more info.

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What is a "Jawn"?​

Every thing is a jawn. You, me, that thing. "Look at that jawn!"  "Hand me that jawn!"  #ITSAPHILLYTHING

 

 

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Travel​

 

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Do I need to rent a car? 

 

No! Philly is a tricky city to drive in with a lot of parking restrictions. If you do decide to rent a car or if you're planning to drive to PHL, please take careful note of street signs.  The Philadelphia Parking Authority is not messing around.  You can download  the ParkMobile App to pay for parking via credit card. Be sure to check cost of parking a car at a hotel/nearby lot. If renting a house, check parking restrictions in the area, there are also pay lots all over Philadelphia.

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How do I get to the wedding venue? Will transportation be provided?

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We will not be providing transportation. We suggest you taxi (215-Get-A-Cab), Lyft or Uber.

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Where should I stay?

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See the accommodation page for details.

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Got more questions? Just email us

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